Grew to hate your dress and bought a second.. Changed your location or theme, and fell for a more appropriate second dress…
Lost or gained so much weight you had to buy another one… Simply fell in love with another dress after you purchased the first?
Whatever the reason, it’s a growing phenomena.. the 2 dress bride. It’s hardly surprising when you consider how far in advance we’re encouraged to buy our dresses now. It’s one of the first things on the “to-do” list, and yet most of us at this point have little idea of the theme, style, location, and have 6 months – 1 year of being bombarded with wedding porn, post – purchase!
I want to state that I am not advocating this situation. Everyone gets doubts about their dress, and most of them are fleeting. But, if you really aren’t going to be happy in that dress… you definitely wouldn’t be the first bride in the world to buy dress number 2 (or 3). If you find yourself in this situation, you are most likely feeling guilty and stressed out about being “that bride”. There are going to be those friends and family who will tell you that buying a second dress is wasteful, that you look lovely, and that you’re being silly. But, in the back of your mind you just don’t picture yourself getting married in that dress. So you start looking for another one.
What options do you have if you want to buy that second dress but are concerned about being wasteful and breaking the bank more than you already have?
1. Accessorize! Exhaust your options with dress number 1 before you even start looking at number 2. Alter the dress’s style with a hair piece, jewelry, shoes or a clip-on corsage. This can totally transform the feel of the dress.
2. Have dress number 1 fitted in a more flattering way, or have some detail added to it. You can find some great seamstresses at http://www.projectwedding.com/vendor/reviews who can work their magic on your existing dress.
3. Ask a friend or relative to borrow their dress. Most women don’t like to see their dresses sitting at the back of their wardrobe collecting dust, and would love someone else to enjoy it. Ask around!
4. Buy a second one that you like.. and sell the first. Try www.recycledbride.com for free listing on a single item. You’ll have to compromise on the price for sure, but someone else can enjoy your dress and you can feel less guilty about it. You can find and sell your second one here too & feel good about the waste you avoided, and the money you recouped in the process.
By the way, for those of you shopping for your first dresses, I love this post on how to avoid becoming a two dress bride.